Maybe you figured it would take a few months. Maybe you knew going in that it would be harder than that — that there would be steps and decisions and waiting rooms. But you didn't know it would feel like this. Like your whole life is on hold. Like you're the only person in every room who knows what cycle day it is.

You're not. But it can feel that way.

Other people's pregnancies land differently now. The baby shower you smiled through. The friend who mentioned, almost apologetically, that it happened on the first try. The social media pregnancy announcement that came through on a day you really didn't have anything left. You put your phone down and got on with it, because that's what you do.

You've read so much. You’re learning more about reproductive medicine than you ever expected to. You show up to every appointment, ask the right questions, do the thing. You are doing everything right. And it's still not in your control, which on some days is the hardest part of all of it.

For some people, it's even more complicated

For some there are more steps, more decisions, more places where the system wasn't built with you in mind.

If you're queer, building your family looks different from the start — more logistics, more gatekeeping, more people with opinions about how you should do it. You've had to make decisions that couples who don't need donor conception never face, and you've had to make them while also managing all of this. [There's a whole page for you here.]

If you're fat, you may have already had the conversation where a provider connected your weight to your fertility or made it a condition of care. We can talk openly about provider bias and any internalized negative messaging about your weight or size.

If you're neurodivergent, the relentless demands of this ~ the appointments, the timing, the medical settings, the sensory experience of procedures and examinations, the information coming at you faster than you can process it. It can make something already overwhelming feel completely unmanageable.

If you're disabled or chronically ill, we can navigate misconceptions about your ability to conceive from providers, family, and society. We’ll discuss the emotional and physical impact of TTC with your health conditions.

If you are TTC at a later age, you likely have fears about age-related statistics for ability to conceive or worries about being pregnant and parenting as an older parent. Concerns with what others might say, or hurtful reactions, questions, comments about your age might already be occurring. We can focus on creating peace around your unique journey.